Why Self-Care is Important for Mothers

Whether you are a mom to a newborn, toddler, or teenager; solo parent or not; working or staying at home with the kids, it is always important to think of ways to keep yourself happy and healthy.

Mothers have so much on their plate -- from the early mornings, late nights, school drop-offs, working at home or going to work, planning meals and holidays and play dates, chores, and so much more (oh, and for most of you, a husband to mind about). The list just goes on and on.

Not that we are complaining (or maybe sometimes we do), moms manage by the grace of grit, but it gets too much to handle at times.

Looking after yourself should be on top of your list.  Cliche as it may sound, you cannot pour from an empty cup. Merely thinking about how you will be able to manage the day with all your to-do list is enough to make you feel burnt-out.

If you want to be able to do what you've got to do, then you've got to do what you have to do for yourself first. You need to make time for yourself every now and then. Do not just find time, MAKE time!

Here are 6 self-care tips to consider to keep yourself energized and re-energized:

1.  Be Honest With Yourself

Feeling tired? Are you angry? Are you frustrated? Are you feeling lazy? IT'S ALL OKAY!
You have to acknowledge all these negative emotions or feelings.

As mothers, we tend to put up a front that we are doing okay. We do not want others to judge how we are parenting or how we are keeping our home, that we try so hard to appear so put-together. This is when things become truly unhealthy for us.

Moms do everything already, people know that, and when you try to do everything, you might fail at some things, and that is ok. Today I screamed at my kid, I failed to become a positive parent, and that's ok. Tomorrow, I'll do better.

Surely, you fail yourself at times, who does not? You may feel all terrible because of days when things do not go as planned, but that's perfectly fine. You can be completely honest to yourself and to others that not every day is a day full of rainbows and butterflies.

It is also something you can teach your children.  Teach them that when they do not feel good about something, they can talk things out. It's going to keep every single one of you sane if you learn to let things out. Just have a moment to vent.

2. Get Physical

I know that moms are already always on the move, but it is different when you do it intentionally to keep fit and energized. Get outside and get some sun, do some running, sweat it out.  It does not have to be vigorous, you can keep it steady or slow-paced. A quiet walk in the park will do. Get your blood pumping and just keep the thoughts about your laundry at home.

If you are not so keen about going outside, you can stay indoors and do stretching or some yoga, maybe you can also just do your garden. Do something spontaneous that is not typically in your to-do list. Sweat it and just do something for yourself!

3. Eat Delicious and Healthy Food

Do not finish your children's left-over food. I am sometimes guilty of this, especially because I hate wasting food, but this is not healthy for you, and you deserve a proper meal for yourself. What I do is I teach my child to take only what he can finish, or I tell him to just ask if he wants more. 

It is crucial that you treat yourself to some good food, your energy is as crucial as your family's. Every now and then, include in your grocery list food that you would like to eat and not only considering what your family wants to eat.

Have an extra pint of ice-cream all for yourself when the kids are asleep but do not overdo it because you need to keep your health in check too.  Maybe an ice-cream today and you can toss a bowl of salad greens for tomorrow.

4. Set Boundaries

Learn the art of saying NO. Setting boundaries can be one of the best things you will ever learn to do for yourself.  It is how you will let people know how to treat you, this will have to include saying no to your partner and your kids.

Your boundaries will establish how your husband and kids will treat you. The demands of motherhood and being a wife may be all too daunting a task to take.  You would wish to fulfill every single thing your husband and kids would demand of you, but you have to learn what to say yes and no to. It may be difficult to say no to your loved ones, you will need to explain to them why your no is a no and they will get it over time and they will know how to respect you for that.

You think it is difficult to say no to your family? You will also need to mind what you allow people outside your home to demand from you.  You need to save your energy for what counts, set your limits so people will not use and manipulate you. 

Only say yes to things that serve you and fulfill you inside. Of course, it has to be good for your family too.

5. Spend Time With Your Partner

Spending time with your partner is a must! Your husband should be your source of strength. As much as you feel tired with all that is going on in your day-to-day, your partner may also feel the same, and both of you need to replenish that lost energy, and maybe you will also rekindle that passion you had before the kids and all that to-dos you both have.

We feel happy when we spend the time with someone we love. It will be a perfect time to talk about how both of you are doing as a couple and as parents. You can also just share anything not related to your home. 

To do this, plan ahead so you can fully have the time for each other.  Ask a relative to look after the kids or hire a trusted person to sit in while you are out.

If you're a single parent, like me, spend time with your closest friends. Meet people and keep an open heart.

6. Reward Yourself

Learn a new skill, pick up a new hobby, pamper yourself, buy that dress! Just do anything for your sake.  Remember to do it guilt-free because you deserve it! 

Reward yourself for being the mother that you are. I can't emphasize this enough -- YOU DESERVE IT!

Self-care is something you need to truly make time for. As mothers, we need to stay whole -- physically, emotionally and mentally healthy to be able to give what our family needs.  We need to be able to love ourselves first to be able to get anything done in this world.

“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.”
by: Eleanor Brownn



  1. As a mom who's having a hard time with self-care this is a very helpful post. I really need to work on the nails done part because I always feel guilty (budget and all) but I know it would make me a better mom. Thanks for this post!

  2. Fail we must! But as we do, we have to learn how to get back up, learn from it and make sure to do what is right this time. Thanks for all these reminders!

  3. Thank you mummychelle for this. I tend to forget these things especially #2 and #3.

  4. I definitely agree with self-care. 😊